Friday, November 25, 2016

When hugs aren't enough

"Hugs" - the most common response to sharing sad or distressing news. I've very recently stopped posting this response as I've learned from experience that while some sincerity is implied, it's often not what is needed.
When a person tells you of a grief or struggle, while a physical hug may provide some instant sorry, a virtual hug, repeated with every passing trouble, feels insincere.
I now feel that when someone tells you they are sick, or a friend or relative is dying, a better response may be, how can I help, what can I do to ease your friend or family member's way.
I, as the aggrieved, don't need a word, I need support, and the person suffering needs the words, the love, the help. Ask me how you can help them, not me.
I will recover, while they may not.

Friday, May 20, 2016

Tips and tricks

#DBlogDay number five: Tips and tricks
Writing this on my phone today, as sitting at my desk is too painful. Herein is my first tip:
1) Don't forget that not all of your health issues have to do with diabetes! Take care of yourself normally as well as "diabetically". I rolled over something on my side a few days ago. Thought I pulled a muscle so let it lie. Woke today in excruciating pain. Docs tell me it's a bruised or cracked rib. The lesson is: if it doesn't feel right get it checked out!
2) You are not alone!!! There are many others of us out here who share some of the same challenges you have faced. Don't be afraid to ask us for help! If we don't know, we probably know someone who does. We're not doctors and can't give medical advice, but we can give life advice and be a listening, compassionate, ear.
3) Nobody's perfect - everybody makes mistakes! Making a mistake isn't a reason to beat yourself up or to give up. Pick yourself up and keep moving on. It will resolve itself one way or another.
That's all I have for today I hope this helps somebody. Have a wonderful weekend!!!

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Pulling the Wild Card!

Welcome to #DBlogWeek Day 4.

Today I'll be doing a running Blog, to cover the Wild Card Topic I've chosen for today:

Some people track every bite they eat, some might not remember at lunch time what they had for breakfast or if they even had breakfast. For one day, document everything you or your loved one with diabetes eats and drinks. The good, the bad, the ugly, the proud, the ashamed, the...whatever. We promise not to judge!!

I'll be keeping track, as the day goes on, as to what I eat, not just for meals, but for lows (and snacks!).

Breakfast today at 6:40am:

Eggo Blueberry Waffles with Butter (because nothing says today is going to be a great day like starting it with Real Butter. Mmmmmm).
Beverage - Mix from work I do - Diet Mountain Dew and a reddish fruit water that I just spent 15 min searching for - but it's yummy!
29 Carbs extended over an hour to cover the butter impact.

Mid morning snack (ok I hit 34 and had to EAT!!!)

Six GlucoLift Cherry Glucose tabs (18 carbs) which probably would have done it but 34 causes a bit of panic...  so followed that up with about 12 Ritz crackers (24 carbs) - followed by a unit of insulin a bit later to cover that spike.

Lunch at noon   ------------------------------>>>
Salad with chopped egg (15ish carbs)
Chocolate chip cookie (26 carbs)
Sobe lean cranberry grapefruit

Snack at 2:30p - remainder of my Ritz as sugars slowly sink to 82. This kept my sugar up around 90 at the 5pm end of day.

About 1c white rice - 45g carbs - treat with 3U Humalog
3 oz seasoned salmon
7 brussel sprouts

AND - dessert - ok not quite but it's yummy!
1oz Grey Goose Vodka with 1oz  Buttershots Dekuypers Schnapps...
OK maybe 1.5 oz of each - hey it's a stressful week - ask me about it!

Hopefully I won't have to add a snack for miscalculation with alcohol later but we'll see, won't we? :-)

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Watch Your Language!

How many times have you heard that from your parents? :-)

#DBlogWeek Day 3 Prompt:
Many advocate for the importance of using non-stigmatizing, inclusive and non-judgmental language when speaking about or to people with diabetes. For some, they don't care, others care passionately. Where do you stand when it comes to “person with diabetes” versus “diabetic”, or “checking” blood sugar versus “testing”, or any of the tons of other examples? Let's explore the power of words, but please remember to keep things respectful.

I have a slightly different take on the "PWD vs Diabetic" conversation. I was diagnosed back in 1971-ish range. The term "Diabetic" was generally used at that time - no one thought anything of it. Now we're in the 21st century and people are, as Heather Gabel pointed out, using "Person-first" language. Example - People with Diabetes, rather than Diabetic. I know a number of people who are varying levels of vehemently against terms like Diabetic in that it identifies a person as a disease or implies a close relation. I do my best when around multiple people who share my condition to fall on the most polite of courses, namely "PWD" or Person with Diabetes.

Now, for myself, I've really never thought of Diabetes as a disease. I mean, according to all the dictionaries I bothered to look at just now, it is indeed a disease, but I've always thought of it as a condition. I think of disease as something you catch, whether from people, insect, plant or food, is treatable and it ends eventually, via health or death. Well, we all do die eventually, right?

I like to think of it as - something happened and now my pancreas doesn't work right. I can take it out and replace it (I KNOW it's not that easy!) or I can react to the lack of insulin production. A chair with three legs has a condition known as "unbalanced" (much like me, but that's another tale). I have a condition known as "broken pancreas" and therefore I am a Diabetic - which really means "with close relation to Diabetes" or some such. The -ic ending defines us all... I own this term and am proud of my progress in controlling my condition and in sharing my thoughts, as evidenced in this blog.

On the -ic thought...

I am not only Diabetic...

     I am Dramatic (ask my husband)...

          I am Emphatic...

               I am somewhat neurotic...

                    And - I am Ecstatic that you came to read my blog!!

Love and Hugs!

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Take my stress... No - please!

Day two of #DBlogWeek...
Tuesday's Prompt: We think a lot about the physical component of diabetes, but the mental component is just as significant. How does diabetes affect you or your loved one mentally or emotionally? How have you learned to deal with the mental aspect of the condition? Any tips, positive phrases, mantras, or ideas to share on getting out of a diabetes funk? (If you are a caregiver to a person with diabetes, write about yourself or your loved one or both!)

As is obvious to anyone with diabetes for longer than a week, or maybe less, diabetes introduces a whole other level of stress into your life. I actually did NOT understand this until well into adulthood when someone had me explain what I do each day to manage diabetes, and she said - WHAT??!! in horror. I guess I really don't think about what I have to do sometimes. It's been 45 years - most of it is routine at this point. Especially when wearing the Dexcom and pump. I've never felt that diabetes caused my depression, but it certainly is a few extra straws. I talked about it with my psych one day, how I always felt like I had too many balls up in the air and was just waiting to drop one, and wondering/worrying which ball it would be.

Turns out - what I need to do periodically is to look at all the shiny colorful balls and choose which one is less important for a while and let that one drop when needed. Sometimes it's housework (ok a lot of times :P ), sometimes it's being social (that one a little too much dropped) and sometimes I get a little lax on diabetes. We're not talking drop the balls entirely - just not looking at my Dex every half hour and just letting it alarm at me if needed.

As for my life partner, husband and love of my life, the stress inherent in taking care of my diabetes certainly shows in him. He's an active partner, pointing out when he thinks I might be low when I'm babbling on for no apparent reason, reminding me to bring my supplies when going on a walk around the neighborhood and running to grab OJ when needed. He wants to take my worries for me, sweet thing. He can't really do that, but it is really nice to have a little bit of a safety net, rather than to be alone as I was for my first 34 years of life and 31.5 years of diabetes. I am truly blessed to have him in my life.

My other means of escaping the "diabetes funk" we all  go thru from time to time... All of you - My D-Friends. The sharing we all do together is my other lifeline - We are not alone. Everyone's journey is different, and we all travel the road in our own way, but we can travel with friends, and share our successes and failures and that, my friends, is what the DOC is all about.